No relationship in life is more important than the love we have for ourselves. Yet we often have to put our own needs on the back burner!
Why is self-love often so difficult for us?
As children, we come into the world completely open and at peace with ourselves, curious about life and everything it has in store for us. However, as children, our horizons are still so narrow that we can usually only relate problems or negative situations to ourselves.
As young people, we are often insecure, have not yet really gotten to know ourselves and perhaps do not yet know who we really are and what defines us. During this time, insults or judgmental comments are particularly painful because we allow them to define us.
Small, joking remarks can have an impact on our entire lives.
This is normal and your subconscious mind only stores this information to protect you from further injury in the future. However, the subconscious mind can also produce very limiting beliefs.
According to the motto “Don't treat your thoughts as facts”, your opinion about yourself is not a law set in stone, but just your own opinion.
Three exercises for more self-love in everyday life
Speak mantras
Find a powerful mantra and say it three times every morning, every evening and whenever you don't feel well or doubt yourself.
•I am enough, just as I am.
•I deserve love and compassion, including from myself.
Spending time alone
Learn to spend really nice, quality time alone and do nice things with yourself. Date yourself! This will have a big impact on your self-confidence, your independence and your connection to yourself.
Thank your body
Self-love and body image are often closely linked. If you don't love yourself, you may also have some issues with your body and great self-doubt. It helps to shift the focus away from the visual aspect and towards gratitude.