Lack of self-love: origins and signs
Your own self-image develops primarily in early childhood. A loving environment in which love and appreciation play a central role helps to develop a positive self-image. However, if a person experiences little appreciation and affection at a young age, this may lead to a lack of self-love in adulthood.
The psychological theory of the “inner child” also assumes this. The philosopher and psychologist John Bradshaw dealt with this in detail. According to the scientist, people who have received little love in the first years of their life and have little self-love have a great desire for validation from others later on.
However, that doesn't mean that everyone who lacks self-love had a bad childhood or bad upbringing.
Likewise, not every child who has not received enough appreciation will become an adult who does not feel self-love. A lack of self-love can also be caused by traumatic events, bullying or a painful separation. Signs of a lack of self-love include:
• Dissatisfaction with yourself
• Constant comparison with other people and jealousy
• Worry about what other people think about you
• Underestimating yourself
• Critical comments are often taken personally.
But what does the fear of loss have to do with all this: in most cases the losses occur in early childhood. Usually between 2-3 or 6-15 years
Losses in early childhood
Death & divorce of parents
Narcissistic parents
Lack of emotional care
Overprotective parents
Limitation of your own development
Fear of loss is triggered and served unknowingly later, and it can lead to us suffering from a lack of self-love at a young age.
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